It's time to talk.
MY SEX DREAM
I dream of a world where people like to talk about sex.
Where people who are attracted to each other say so.
Where it is crystal clear what–if anything–each would like to do with the other.
Where, if their desires align, they have fun doing what they agree on together.
Where partners communicate clearly and often. Where people are present in their bodies to enjoy sex.
I dream of a world where women are unafraid to express desire.
Where they relish receiving pleasure.
Where they feel supported in changing their mind.
Where "no" is easy, freeze responses are recognized, and check-ins are made.
I dream of a world where people are unafraid to communicate and connect.
I want to live in a world where enthusiastic consent takes the place of persistent pursuit as the sexiest, most celebrated mode of courting.
And instead of discussing how we can avoid being assaulted,
we discuss IF and HOW and WHEN we would like to have orgasms.
Explicit, clear boundaries and ongoing conversations between partners
is my dream for the sex lives of humanity.
I believe the first step is to talk about it.
So I'm here to ask the curious
(and very personal)
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CONTACT ME / SHARE A STORY / BE A GUEST
SAMPLE QUESTIONS for GUESTS
We won't necessarily have time to cover everything here,
but use this to spark your imagination and think about experiences or broader thoughts on sex you'd like to share,
and we'll go from there.
Introduce yourself in as much detail as feels comfortable. Letting listeners know the varied backgrounds of guests is helpful. For example:
Name (real or chosen)
Age / generation
Orientation / Identity
Background -- where you’re from / culture / religion / values around sex
Age you discovered masturbation
Age you first had sex w another person (also: how do you define it?)
If you had to rate yourself on a sexual shame-o-meter, with 1 (shameless!) to 10 (so full of shame), where do you think fall?
What’s your current relationship with sex?
Do you talk about sex with partners ahead of time? Protection?
What are your earliest memories/feelings around sex? Blow jobs Cunnilingus?
Did you get a sex talk?
What do you remember about sex ed?
How do you communicate around sex? With family? With friends? With partners? Do you find it easy / difficult and why?
Orgasms. Thoughts? Feelings? Is it "easy" for you? What are the ideal conditions? What gets you off? BE SPECIFIC!
Kinks? If you've explored kink, what were conversations like with partners ahead of time? During?
First times: kissing, sex, blow jobs?
Current thoughts on blowjobs? Cunnilingus? Butt stuff?
Multiple partners at the same time? If not, would you consider it?Why? What do you / would you need to feel safe/excited in a group sex situation??
Sex dreams? Do you have them? Do you orgasm in them? Are there any recurring themes?
Best / worst / weirdest: sex, blowjobs, cunnilingus, butt stuff? Horror stories? Delicious stories?
When do you feel most in touch with your body?
Body hair preferences (for yourself or partners)?
Future hopes/goals/dreams for your sex life?
If you could go back and give a younger version of yourself sex advice, what age(s) would you pick and what would you say?
Ask me a sex question!